Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Faith can reach beyond our ability to reason

I never thought I would be writing a post like this again, or starting another adoption blog, but here we are.

This is "Noah" , a beautiful baby boy abandoned at birth because he has down syndrome. He is currently laying in a crib all alone in an orphanage in eastern europe and our path is being led to bring him home.

Last spring I started having some huge feelings pulling me towards adoption again. I thought it was insane and even just months before had been commenting that although I know first hand how important adoption is, and although my heart still breaks for all the waiting children who I left behind, I myself would never want to do it again. I just wanted others to do it so that all these children could find families. But I had already done it and couldn't do it again.

But the Lord is once again weaving a different path then I had planned.

It started last spring, with a picture of a little boy,  "Baby B", followed by lots of spiritual moments and experiences that not so suddlely told me the Lord was leading me down the adoption path again. So we committed to "Baby B" last spring thinking he was what the Lord was asking me to do, and for a month or two waited to hear if we would be matched with him. Sadly we learned that the agency who held his file would deny us the right to adopt him solely due to our religious beliefs. We were heartbroken and devastated. But assumed it must not have been our path and maybe adoption wasnt really in the cards for us.

As time went on, as hard as I tried, I still couldn't shake the feeling that adoption was still in the picture so I proceeded to casually look at other children, just in case, often sending their pictures to Kris and wondering if one of them would be the answer. The summer went on and none of them seemed to be "the one" and I was really questioning why I would have had so many distinct feelings, and direct promptings about adoption if I wasn't supposed to do it. And I really started praying that it would all go away. That all these thoughts and feelings towards adoption would just stop.
I remember one of my moments of prayer was driving in my car pleading with the Lord for clarification on this matter. If i was not supposed to adopt then please let these feelings go away so I can move forward with something else, and I remember as I was praying these words "Heavenly Father if I am supposed to adopt again, then please lead me to that child" I was soon in a puddle of  tears flowing so hard as I said those words that I could hardly see the road, and with the tears came a wave of peace. And I thought to myself, I think this is my path right now, but it just hasnt led to my child yet.

Time went on and nothing came. But in the fore front of my mind and thoughts was this idea that something more was to come of this road from Baby B.

At the time when we lost the opportunity to adopt Baby B, a friend said to me "you never know, maybe the little one who is meant for you isn't even born yet". I laughed it off and went on my way.

At the end of September it was brought to my attention that a little baby girl had her family fall through and needed another one so I approached Kris with her and we prayed and attended the temple but both felt she was not ours. And regrettably I told the facilitator no to her. Still wondering why I was even still open to this adoption idea at all? And I started praying even harder that this would all go away. I mean lets be honest, it would have been much easier if it would have just stopped.

Then a week or so later I scrolled through the newly listed children on Reeces Rainbow, and as this little face of Noah came up, it took my breathe away and the first thing I thought was "wow he looks like he could be one of my children, he even looks like Kyra's baby pictures!" I felt a wave of peace and calming at that moment. I leaned over to show Kris his picture and he smiled and laughed.

In early October, things changed from the general idea of adoption, to being about a boy, this boy.
Well from that moment to this, little Noahs face has not left my mind. Every time I see this picture of him I feel peace. Just as with Mia's first picture, his eyes are calling me. His big dark eyes look lost and seem to be looking right into my heart at times. He has consumed my every thought and after much prayer, fasting, pondering, countless sleepless nights, and many trips to the temple, we have decided we cant turn away from these feelings and we are taking the leap of faith that we need to go bring him home.

 It may not be the easy road that we would hope for or choose on our own, but it is right nonetheless.
I don't recall a time in my life where I have felt so weighed down by a decision, for so long, or felt so much turmoil and anxiety over how to make a decision then I have felt the last 9 months since the adoption path was at my door again.

And now that we have committed to Noah, I can say how wonderful it feels to have that weight lifted and to feel that you have made the right choice. I have never felt so much peace, for the first time in 9 months, I finally feel at peace.

This time around this leap of faith may be bigger than before, I mean its adding a 7th child, (AGHHHH) its adding a 3rd child with down syndrome and of course its scary, but its still right.

I am sure people will think we are crazy, and maybe we are, but sometimes crazy is still the right thing to do.

 "Our faith can reach beyond our ability to reason, and quiet assurances come as His will becomes ours" .

We know the Lord moved mountains for a lost little girl before, and we are following Him in faith that He will do it again. This time for a lost little boy.

We are not doing this because we "need to fill our boy quota" .
We are doing this because its the right thing to do.

A little boy who was not born when we started down this path last spring and applied to adopt "Baby B", but instead was born the very month that we were denied "Baby B". That very month little Noah was born and I do not think that thread is merely a coincidence in this tapestry.

As with Mia, we don't know much about him, only that he is about 6 months old and has down syndrome. And sleeps in one of the beds lined up against the wall in the picture behind him, all alone.

We don't know what the future holds, but we do know that the Lord is asking us to act in faith, and above all we know that this little boy needs us,


and we may not realize now,
just how very much we need him.


  1. I’m excited for you and your family as you embark on this new journey of adding to your family. Baby Noah is beautiful and really does look like he belongs in your family. Please let me know how I can help as you move forward with completing his adoption. . . fundraisers, helping with the kids, meals, etc. Can’t wait for you to bring him home! xoxo

  2. He is beautiful Kecia!! I'm so excited for you. Please let me know how I can help you. If I can help raise money with my services. I'm here to help you. It's not in the cards for me to do what you are doing but I LOVE and admire you for bringing these incredible spirits into your home and into our lives.

  3. I'm a puddle of tears after reading this. You are amazing and that is one very lucky little boy to land into a loving and wonderful family.

  4. Such a beautiful boy!! As someone who's struggled with infertility for almost 6 years and the option to adopt is slip to none, I want you to know I really appreciate you! and the blessings of family you've given to these children :)

  5. Sooooooooooo excited for you and your family!! I remember following your story with Mia when we kinda fell into Lina's adoption- we were not looking to adopt at all but felt God pulling us toward her until he pretty much slapped us across the face and said GO GET HER!!! :) I will live vicariously through you as I would love to adopt again but am definitely not ready yet. Prayers for a smooth and speedy adoption process!!

  6. Wow how I know that feeling of begging God to please take the feeling away. Still not sure why I was sent on a journey to adopt a little girl from Russia only to hit every road block imaginable and then to be forced to watch her grow up in photos due to politics and a insane ban. I keep thinking one day it will all be revealed to me. One day I will figure out where exactly this path is supposed to be leading me as I scream for the forgotten Russian orphans with hardly anyone else adding their voice to mine anymore. But for some reason I feel like God is keeping me on this path even if it is a very lonely path at times. It reminds me of the quote "Never doubt in darkness what God has revealed to you in the light." I am praying your journey has smooth sailing from here on out. It is no fun to be stuck in the middle of the ocean trying to figure out if you should keep trying for the shore or just turn around and go back home. I know your family has been through a lot so hopefully it will be easy this time around.

  7. So excited for you!!!! Prayers for a smooooooth adoption process. Wait - is that even possible? Ha.

  8. I'm so happy for you and your family...what a blessing, he's beautiful! Praying that all will go smoothly and quickly. I'm sure the girls will absolutely adore him!

  9. I've been around since WAYYYY back before Mia was yours.. wondered how everyone was doing, this is exciting! Hope things move quickly. The less time he spends alone in a crib most of his days, the better. He should be so lucky as to get home QUICKLY!!!

  10. He is precious...such s blessing! So happy for you and your family.

  11. Dear Kecia,

    I found y'all through Instagram and have loved seeing your wonderful adoption videos. I'm not an adoptive Mom or even a mother at all - actually old enough to be your mother : ), but have become aware of special needs orphans over the last few years.

    All of your children are beautiful and if there has ever been a more precious child than Noah, I'll be astounded.

    Thank you for your testimony of faith, love and honesty. I've been moved to share your videos with friends, as well.

    May God continue to bless you and Kris and your children with continued health, happiness and, as it's written, the peace that passes all understanding.

    Sincerely yours,

    Brett Butler